We joke that if I ever die of stab wounds, look no farther than my wife. It will be the easiest murder to solve ever.
But no, seriously, I read that 7 sins part as I edited this post and have to say that she has cranked several things out of proportion. I've seen a woman over the last 23 years that has grown so much. For sure she still has a temper, and can be petty about what are to me silly things, but she has also become a lot more measured and introspective over the years and I think you all have seen that change in how the site is written.
And I'll use this space to echo her thanks to Sarah, Emily, and the writers for holding down the fort while we travelled. For years I've watched someone who has had so much on her plate not be able to take a breath for herself. This trip, for both of us, was life changing and a combination of having this support for the site, and her not having to be in studio 5 days a week and therefore be able to take a longer break (here's a big plus of not being on a daily talk show), really let us live in the moment in Japan and Hong Kong and take it all in.
And thank you to all of you who subscribe to this site and visit LG. It's been so great to see that we have a tight community of gossips who have a space here to have non-toxic discussions about whatever moves them and it's been really gratifying to be able to chat with you guys directly. We really appreciate your support and hope this combination of the site and The Squawk is as fun for you as it has been for us.
Unrelated, and also because I don't understand how the mailbag works (because I probably wasn't reading properly)... aside from work that I love to hear about, when are we going to talk about the word ethereal and how Lily Gladstone embodies the definition??? She is very photogenic and her face is a painting in each one. She could wear a paper bag and that face would still have natural light and joy. She makes Leo look less greasy. She needs to be on all covers and campaigns. I'm not sure if that is her lane as an artist.
Revenge, all day, every day. It's literally what keeps me going sometimes. Since having cancer is annoying, and you have to hear every home remedy and illness others have 24/7, I have spent an unhealthy amount of time plotting the demise of neighbors, co-workers (part-time), grocery clerks and children. Fortunately all my schemes require skills I don't have, and my sense of humor makes them so elaborate and lengthy (think faking mafia wife lifestyle to kill older gentleman neighbor), no one's dead yet. You're perfectly normal Lainey.
Yesss! I had anger erupting inside of me during and after cancer treatment. For years. I was shamed and told I was ungrateful, I needed to cheer up, etc. Fuck that, anger is perfectly healthy when you live with or care for someone with chronic or life altering illness!
Oh my word! Not the children (under 7... maybe 4?)!! Have you ever watched Designing Women? One of the lead characters (Julia Sugarbaker) has a list and she also has a slicing tongue so no one actually lives after crossing her because they've passed away from embarrassment. She went toe to toe with a child and no one was on the child's side.
I'm sorry to hear about your bout with cancer. My family member would probably feel you deeply on the suggestions and remedies. At one point, I turned off the phone while in the hospital because there's no reason to call for an update on an update about another potential update. I hope you have someone to cushion your struggle, and if not then know that there's warm good thoughts for you from the internet. Cancer is a jerk.
For a long time I could look at Jared Leto and thing Jordan Catalano. Sadly, now I can not. Jared Leto has killed Jordan Catalano. RIP Jordan Catalano.
I'm so grateful you've had this time together! Both as a couple and as a family. And I'm also grateful to the LG Team for their support and for the chance to be a part of a pretty fucking amazing gossip community. PS Lainey please share the skin notes upon your return!
It sure seems like Jacob Elordi is getting the lions share of the attention for a movie titled "Priscilla". When I hear about Cailee Spaeny it's mainly about how tiny she is....in relation to Elordi.
I wonder if height can be limiting for actors (of all genders). I find that we hear a lot about how actors are shorter in height irl, especially the men. But that works in their favour as they can be closer eye to eye with their respective love interest. I guess the camera can always work around it. I’m really interested in seeing She Came To Me, Peter Dinklage seems like such a great love interest!! The cyrano de Bergerac one looks great too
Well, I'm not scared. I'm just, as usual, impressed with how well you write. And also how you look out for your people. Nah to the torture though--lets just leave the 7 Ds as a convenient way of thinking about personalities. No such thing as the Bad Place, etc., etc.
Jacek says you've blown a few things out of proportion, but I don't think anyone else knows quite how we feel to ourselves in our own heads. Though its nice to know that your nearest and dearest love you and don't think you're monster, no matter what you think yourself.
And yes, always put the candles out by 8pm. Of course.
Thank you for answering my question, Lainey, and for opening up about your parents and your and Jacek’s ongoing journey. I’m nearly there myself, and it’s pretty scary and overwhelming. I think it hit me as I accompanied my mom on what we think might be her last international trip to see her friends and family one more time. I agree that we don’t talk about this stage enough, and I wish we did.
That’s GREAT news about starting the Oscars earlier. I agree that they should lean in to the people who care about the Oscars and stop trying to please the masses. These are not the People’s Choice Awards! Gone are the days of David Mamet’s assertion that the Super Bowl and the Oscars are our 2 legitimate national holidays. I know lots of people who couldn’t tell you what teams played in last year’s SB OR name a Best Picture winner from the last 5 years. That’s just not the media landscape we live in anymore.
Also, kudos for the One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest reference. It’s my go-to response whenever someone claims a movie can never be better than the book
I live in Europe and haven't watched the Oscars live in a really long time. It never starts before 1 AM. During college years I used to have viewing parties with friends, even when I began working I still sometimes watched the whole night and then straight to work. The energy of youth LOL.
The flip side of this is me getting up in the middle of the night to watch a royal wedding and then going straight to work. Not my most productive days... 😂
And double 😭 for the update on Lainey’s parents. I can relate on the bittersweet time to care for and worry about our parents’ health and aging. I’m in the food court trying not to cry in public 😭
I am a caretaker for elderly and hospice patients. I am semi-retired now, but I will come out of retirement to help someone in need. One of the most profound parts of hospice work are helping the family get their head around what's going on and showing them how to face it. Everyone is different, handles it differently. Some people want to get in there, roll up their sleeves and take care of their loved one until the bitter end. Other's cannot bear to take part, and will hover in the edge of the intense action, but are there to help with other important tasks like shopping and preparing food. There is no wrong way to deal with the phase of life we will all participate in, the act of dying.
One of the hardest but most necessary things to guide people through is letting go of the overwhelming need to save their loved one, to keep them alive. When you're at the end of life, there is a process that will happen, whether we want to accept it or not, and fighting against it only causes pain and stress for the person who will die. But it's a delicate dance to guide people from wanting to do everything to keep their loved one alive and helping them go as pain-free and peacefully as possible. A big part of my job is to help families deal with that active act of dying, and helping them make their loved ones as comfortable as possible.
It's not a job for the faint of heart, but it a worthwhile job. It's as important as giving birth and nurturing an infant to adulthood. Seeing someone leave this life for whatever might await us is something we'll all face, and people like me can help you face that difficult time. And the truth is there is great beauty in being part of the process of dying. People like me help others find that beauty and cherish it.
Andrea, thank you SO MUCH for the work that you do. It’s so vitally important and I can tell from your comment that you have a lot of compassion for your patients and families.
I’m a hospice social worker & you are correct - it can be difficult but so immensely rewarding knowing that you are helping to ease the anxieties of end of life care.
Lainey & Jacek, thank you both so much for sharing parts of your caregiving journeys with us. May you both have a trip filled with positive memories that will help though the difficult times.
I second Myra's thanks for the update on Lainey's Mom and Dad. And what Lainey wrote hits so hard. I am 15 years older than Lainey, and am now in that stage of family life that she referenced. Jacek and Lainey were so wise to take this trip now.
Yes, thank you Lainey for openly sharing about your parents. So many of us have this in front of us as the Boomers age. I’m not quite there yet but that could change at any point. I work with elders and see the importance of family caregivers everyday and applaud every who is there in person or remotely advocating and supporting their loved ones. It’s hard work but so important. 👏
I appreciate Lainey’s answer too, especially her consideration of how their emotional part plays into their emotional present, as their health changes. My parents range in age from 60-79, with my mom being the oldest of the four. She’s starting to get hurt a lot and she’s really really stubborn about accepting help or losing any of her independence. It’s a really hard thing to navigate - I have small children who need me, but they listen! They have to! Parents are harder.
I really appreciate your addressing your Mom's illness and the relationship between your parents and the rest of the family. My Dad is terminally ill and all the resentments my parents have carried around for 58 years of marriage are front and center now. It is really difficult as a child to try to support both parents through this when you want to tell them to behave and send them to their rooms. As a caregiver - and not even the main one here -- it is easy to feel despondent. Hearing what others are going through - especially when it is similar to my own issues -- is very helpful. I read your post to my husband this morning and it was beneficial to both of us. Thank you.
I'm so glad you all were able to have some time before your "family work" and enjoy Japan. I keep forgetting to check your IG for food experiences because I would love to see how you moved through. Hong Kong is such a lovely green lush engaging mecca for good energy.
We joke that if I ever die of stab wounds, look no farther than my wife. It will be the easiest murder to solve ever.
But no, seriously, I read that 7 sins part as I edited this post and have to say that she has cranked several things out of proportion. I've seen a woman over the last 23 years that has grown so much. For sure she still has a temper, and can be petty about what are to me silly things, but she has also become a lot more measured and introspective over the years and I think you all have seen that change in how the site is written.
And I'll use this space to echo her thanks to Sarah, Emily, and the writers for holding down the fort while we travelled. For years I've watched someone who has had so much on her plate not be able to take a breath for herself. This trip, for both of us, was life changing and a combination of having this support for the site, and her not having to be in studio 5 days a week and therefore be able to take a longer break (here's a big plus of not being on a daily talk show), really let us live in the moment in Japan and Hong Kong and take it all in.
And thank you to all of you who subscribe to this site and visit LG. It's been so great to see that we have a tight community of gossips who have a space here to have non-toxic discussions about whatever moves them and it's been really gratifying to be able to chat with you guys directly. We really appreciate your support and hope this combination of the site and The Squawk is as fun for you as it has been for us.
Damn y'all are a bloodthirsty lot.
Unrelated, and also because I don't understand how the mailbag works (because I probably wasn't reading properly)... aside from work that I love to hear about, when are we going to talk about the word ethereal and how Lily Gladstone embodies the definition??? She is very photogenic and her face is a painting in each one. She could wear a paper bag and that face would still have natural light and joy. She makes Leo look less greasy. She needs to be on all covers and campaigns. I'm not sure if that is her lane as an artist.
She is very old Hollywood in these photos to me! Adore her.
Just wanted to thank you for this community, and being so open in sharing your lives vulnerably with us!
Revenge, all day, every day. It's literally what keeps me going sometimes. Since having cancer is annoying, and you have to hear every home remedy and illness others have 24/7, I have spent an unhealthy amount of time plotting the demise of neighbors, co-workers (part-time), grocery clerks and children. Fortunately all my schemes require skills I don't have, and my sense of humor makes them so elaborate and lengthy (think faking mafia wife lifestyle to kill older gentleman neighbor), no one's dead yet. You're perfectly normal Lainey.
Yesss! I had anger erupting inside of me during and after cancer treatment. For years. I was shamed and told I was ungrateful, I needed to cheer up, etc. Fuck that, anger is perfectly healthy when you live with or care for someone with chronic or life altering illness!
Oh my word! Not the children (under 7... maybe 4?)!! Have you ever watched Designing Women? One of the lead characters (Julia Sugarbaker) has a list and she also has a slicing tongue so no one actually lives after crossing her because they've passed away from embarrassment. She went toe to toe with a child and no one was on the child's side.
I'm sorry to hear about your bout with cancer. My family member would probably feel you deeply on the suggestions and remedies. At one point, I turned off the phone while in the hospital because there's no reason to call for an update on an update about another potential update. I hope you have someone to cushion your struggle, and if not then know that there's warm good thoughts for you from the internet. Cancer is a jerk.
For a long time I could look at Jared Leto and thing Jordan Catalano. Sadly, now I can not. Jared Leto has killed Jordan Catalano. RIP Jordan Catalano.
It's like he needs a fairy godfather to come and stop him from ruining his reputation. Turn him back into a pumpkin.
😭 RIP Jordan Catalano.
I'm so grateful you've had this time together! Both as a couple and as a family. And I'm also grateful to the LG Team for their support and for the chance to be a part of a pretty fucking amazing gossip community. PS Lainey please share the skin notes upon your return!
I thought I was the only weirdo that plots revenge. Thank you Lainey. I feel seen.
Me too! I am so good at this. Another useless skill. lol
Until it is useful! Still waiting for the day but always practicing in my head lol
Ok, I like this! Sharpening our revenge ;)
It sure seems like Jacob Elordi is getting the lions share of the attention for a movie titled "Priscilla". When I hear about Cailee Spaeny it's mainly about how tiny she is....in relation to Elordi.
Well the height difference is staggering, that poor camera dept that has to accommodate them both in frame.
But she's a legit Best Actress contender and he's a supporting actor dark horse at best, so we will hear more about Cailee in the long run.
I wonder if height can be limiting for actors (of all genders). I find that we hear a lot about how actors are shorter in height irl, especially the men. But that works in their favour as they can be closer eye to eye with their respective love interest. I guess the camera can always work around it. I’m really interested in seeing She Came To Me, Peter Dinklage seems like such a great love interest!! The cyrano de Bergerac one looks great too
Yup Vanity Fair, an analysis of the chair throw scene. Love their scene breakdowns especially the one for Past Lives!!!
This was a really great mailbag and a really lovely comment section 💕💕 truly! Feeling feels!
Well, I'm not scared. I'm just, as usual, impressed with how well you write. And also how you look out for your people. Nah to the torture though--lets just leave the 7 Ds as a convenient way of thinking about personalities. No such thing as the Bad Place, etc., etc.
Jacek says you've blown a few things out of proportion, but I don't think anyone else knows quite how we feel to ourselves in our own heads. Though its nice to know that your nearest and dearest love you and don't think you're monster, no matter what you think yourself.
And yes, always put the candles out by 8pm. Of course.
Hear hear for a diligent candle carer!
Thank you for answering my question, Lainey, and for opening up about your parents and your and Jacek’s ongoing journey. I’m nearly there myself, and it’s pretty scary and overwhelming. I think it hit me as I accompanied my mom on what we think might be her last international trip to see her friends and family one more time. I agree that we don’t talk about this stage enough, and I wish we did.
That’s GREAT news about starting the Oscars earlier. I agree that they should lean in to the people who care about the Oscars and stop trying to please the masses. These are not the People’s Choice Awards! Gone are the days of David Mamet’s assertion that the Super Bowl and the Oscars are our 2 legitimate national holidays. I know lots of people who couldn’t tell you what teams played in last year’s SB OR name a Best Picture winner from the last 5 years. That’s just not the media landscape we live in anymore.
Also, kudos for the One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest reference. It’s my go-to response whenever someone claims a movie can never be better than the book
I live in Europe and haven't watched the Oscars live in a really long time. It never starts before 1 AM. During college years I used to have viewing parties with friends, even when I began working I still sometimes watched the whole night and then straight to work. The energy of youth LOL.
The flip side of this is me getting up in the middle of the night to watch a royal wedding and then going straight to work. Not my most productive days... 😂
You answered my question!!! 😭 thank you
And double 😭 for the update on Lainey’s parents. I can relate on the bittersweet time to care for and worry about our parents’ health and aging. I’m in the food court trying not to cry in public 😭
I am a caretaker for elderly and hospice patients. I am semi-retired now, but I will come out of retirement to help someone in need. One of the most profound parts of hospice work are helping the family get their head around what's going on and showing them how to face it. Everyone is different, handles it differently. Some people want to get in there, roll up their sleeves and take care of their loved one until the bitter end. Other's cannot bear to take part, and will hover in the edge of the intense action, but are there to help with other important tasks like shopping and preparing food. There is no wrong way to deal with the phase of life we will all participate in, the act of dying.
One of the hardest but most necessary things to guide people through is letting go of the overwhelming need to save their loved one, to keep them alive. When you're at the end of life, there is a process that will happen, whether we want to accept it or not, and fighting against it only causes pain and stress for the person who will die. But it's a delicate dance to guide people from wanting to do everything to keep their loved one alive and helping them go as pain-free and peacefully as possible. A big part of my job is to help families deal with that active act of dying, and helping them make their loved ones as comfortable as possible.
It's not a job for the faint of heart, but it a worthwhile job. It's as important as giving birth and nurturing an infant to adulthood. Seeing someone leave this life for whatever might await us is something we'll all face, and people like me can help you face that difficult time. And the truth is there is great beauty in being part of the process of dying. People like me help others find that beauty and cherish it.
Andrea, thank you SO MUCH for the work that you do. It’s so vitally important and I can tell from your comment that you have a lot of compassion for your patients and families.
I’m a hospice social worker & you are correct - it can be difficult but so immensely rewarding knowing that you are helping to ease the anxieties of end of life care.
Lainey & Jacek, thank you both so much for sharing parts of your caregiving journeys with us. May you both have a trip filled with positive memories that will help though the difficult times.
Myra, thank you so much for your question!!!
It was actually Josephine that asked the question about Lainey’s mom, I was simply reacting. Thank you for all that you do!!!
I second Myra's thanks for the update on Lainey's Mom and Dad. And what Lainey wrote hits so hard. I am 15 years older than Lainey, and am now in that stage of family life that she referenced. Jacek and Lainey were so wise to take this trip now.
Yes, thank you Lainey for openly sharing about your parents. So many of us have this in front of us as the Boomers age. I’m not quite there yet but that could change at any point. I work with elders and see the importance of family caregivers everyday and applaud every who is there in person or remotely advocating and supporting their loved ones. It’s hard work but so important. 👏
I appreciate Lainey’s answer too, especially her consideration of how their emotional part plays into their emotional present, as their health changes. My parents range in age from 60-79, with my mom being the oldest of the four. She’s starting to get hurt a lot and she’s really really stubborn about accepting help or losing any of her independence. It’s a really hard thing to navigate - I have small children who need me, but they listen! They have to! Parents are harder.
I have a teenager - and still, parents are harder. So much complexity !
So incredibly moved by and grateful for Lainey's answer. Thank you for asking it.
I really appreciate your addressing your Mom's illness and the relationship between your parents and the rest of the family. My Dad is terminally ill and all the resentments my parents have carried around for 58 years of marriage are front and center now. It is really difficult as a child to try to support both parents through this when you want to tell them to behave and send them to their rooms. As a caregiver - and not even the main one here -- it is easy to feel despondent. Hearing what others are going through - especially when it is similar to my own issues -- is very helpful. I read your post to my husband this morning and it was beneficial to both of us. Thank you.
I'm so glad you all were able to have some time before your "family work" and enjoy Japan. I keep forgetting to check your IG for food experiences because I would love to see how you moved through. Hong Kong is such a lovely green lush engaging mecca for good energy.
Also has anyone dated/flirted with someone famous on here?
LG should have a segment like this https://www.instagram.com/reel/C0Rr_y0Laye/?igshid=ZWI2YzEzYmMxYg==